Friends

It has been quite awhile. Lots of things have changed. Our daughter is 'grown', 15 now and a Sophmore in high school. I am a stay at home wife and mom and living the dream.

So why to I struggle with friends? 

I have made a few great friends over the years, mostly thru work. I suppose over the years of separation, we communicate now via social media and messaging, now and again, rather than face to face. They are not in close proximity. There is that handful of great women in my life I truely miss. 

Now that I don't work, I have lots of 'friends', rather more acquaintances, thru my husband's work. I find this is tough, because of the 1 thing we have in common is my husband. I joking tell him he is the reason I have not any friends. First off, he is amazing and sets the bar high. He is truely my best friend. Secondly, he is so amazing I find friends become jealous at times of our relationship and family dynamics. 👪  I wouldn't change that for the world. Third, the older I get, the less b.s. I am willing to out up with. When drama happens, I tend to close that door, quickly. I don't have a whole lot of give (a shit) left.

So know, what do I do about this dilemma? 

I suppose I could lower my standards. I could get used to people having hidden agendas and being my friend to obtain their goals at work with my husband. I could meet people outside of his work, whom I have nothing work related in common with (boring). Where is my outlet?

Is it truely an issue to not have good female friends? Maybe it's perfectly fine for it to just be us, and I should be happy and content with just us 2. 😊  Sometimes though, especially when he's gone, I feel lonely. 

I'd like someone other than my other half (or our daughter) to confide in. Other than family, I mean. My person, non related to the fire department, no hidden agenda, no strings attached (to work), flexible schedule, etc... 

Maybe I should take out an ad. Looking for a dispatcher who works nights, gets off in the morning and wants to have a beer (sometimes coffee lol) at 8am, smokes, cusses, and doesn't have littles to attend to. (We've done our time and don't care to have 'them' around anymore).  

I feel too specific. Maybe I'm not needy, but am wanting. I feel I am low maintenance and high energy. Always happy and positive. (Watch out when I'm quiet!) Does this person exist? 🤔  I did, so I know they're out there. 😆 

Wondering and pondering is all. 

 

Now credit for those FEW friends I do have in my life, aside from Danny, there's only a handful, maybe. one, they know me, and love me just the same. They don't judge me (or we wouldn't be friends), they support me. Women should lift one another up, and encourage one another, not bash or critic each other. Common interest are also key. Plants and gardening, crafting, but mostly, family values are essential to me. A few are fire family, not many have made it. To these women, I am grateful for. 🙏 ❤️ 😊